Discovery

There is so much we found out through this process including not only who but the reality that this person was harboring a great deal of resentment, envy and likely a whole host of other negative feelings against one person for over 25 years at least. So, yes basically we found out after having this person in our family orbit for the better part of my life that there was a great deal of negativity bubbling under the surface. So, how do you have a dialogue with someone who insists in sneaking around at night and in your blind spots to obsess to what seems to be no end? Well, passive aggressive notes left in places we knew they were walking through seemed to be a good idea. Below is an excerpt of one of those notes. Stalking: Real Magic or Just Slight of Hand The resulting process we went through discovering, verifying and confirming who our stalker was also included a harsh 'wake up' process as those details came to light. The what, when, how and sometimes 'with who' of stalking also shed light on just how these issues express themselves. This excerpt shows a bit more about what we found out delivered with enough passive aggressive attitude to sink the titanic "Back for more I see… How long do you think this will last? At what point will you become the object of your own parlor trick? Slight of hand is just that slight of hand, nothing more. Just because someone is not so adept at slight of hand does not mean they can’t see what you are doing? Just because someone is not able to perform slight of hand as well as you can does not mean they cannot see what you are doing. Manipulation is manipulation and nothing more. There are no shortcuts, steps you get to skip. The lifetime of gossip will be your undoing. Every negative thing you say about others, anyone will comeback to haunt you one way or another. This is because of many things but one reason is, the fundamental inaccuracies of gossip. Inaccuracy reveals your true emotions but inaccurate information always gets flushed out at some point. That is a heavy burden after you have made a career out of attempting to destroy one person. This means that you, in your 60s have spent 30+ years allowing your feelings to out reach your better judgement in your decisions until you can no longer see anything clearly. Taming your emotional nature is a huge portion of growing up and well maturity. How well have you done? You are sneaking around at night reading notes left to you outside someone else’s house. I would say there is some work to do before your feelings no longer determine the direction of your judgement and decisions. Few people act out their emotional issues as well as you. So throw your tantrum. That is what you will do anyhow. Run to your friends, complain, express your ‘concern’ over someone but never, ever speak to them directly, never find out, actually care, actually learn, actually be compassionate. Run to your friends, anything to not take responsibility. Just act, pretend and play the parlor tricks until, one day… Stay tuned… Maybe next time we will dive deeper into your psyche and work through those alcoholic Mommy issues." For folks reading this and other articles for the first time, these notes were well into a lengthy process of surviving and dealing with a stalker. This is just a part of our process when we decided to start leaving notes for a stalker to find whenever they decided to do their stalking.